Bella Blu

I may look happy, but simply putting on a brave face for Bella.

Bella

This post is for my precious dog child - BELLA.

When I was married for those of you who may not have read my book, I had 3 dogs one of them Sushi belonged to my youngest daughter but she became mine. She was my absolute soul mate unlike any human could ever be. Sushi spent every waking moment right at my heels or on my lap at the slightest opportunity. I loved the other two, a lab Max and a male maltese Harley but Sushi was my favourite. We were one.

While I was getting divorced my ex husband prevented me having Sushi or even seeing her. He had changed all the locks of our home and there was no way for me to get to her except on occasion I drove past the house we shared and spent time patting the dogs through the security fence.

Three months later Sushi was run over in his drive way and a few months later Harley was run over in the same way. Words cannot describe the pain. There was a huge hole in my heart for a long time.
I vowed I would never have pets again.

About 4 years later my heart relatively healed... I said relatively. I bought another little maltese and called her Bella. Not an original name I know but she was truly beautiful. I have had her for 3 years and not one day has passed that she has not made me laugh. She has a totally different personality to Sushi who was quiet and very submissive. Bella was more energetic and wild at heart. This past 3 years she healed my heart in ways medicine and therapy couldn't. We played together, laughed together and slept together.

The problems started as I got better or should I say my heart started to heal and I became more functional. I needed to work more and socializing was out of the question because she hated being left alone and often I couldn't take her with me. Often when I would be working at home for long periods of time she would sit close by and whimper and I knew she wanted me to play. The two of us would either go for a walk or I threw the ball for her in my garden. As soon as she was tired she would fall asleep on the couch and resume what ever work I was doing. This simply couldn't continue.

The only way I could rationalize finding a new family for her was to continually remind myself that I cannot bare animals kept in cages or captivity period, unless it is for them to be rehabilitated. Bella wasn't happy, of course she was over the moon when I spent time with her but that was becoming more and more difficult.

I have found her a new home where there is another maltese for her to play with and an owner who loves her to bits so all I can do now is trust that I made the right decision for 'her'.

Life constantly has it's twists and turns and we just have to deal with things as they come our way. My life goes on with sadness but tomorrow brings new experiences I am sure.

Hitting Information

Just to let you know, last year from January - December 2011 we had just under 500,000 hits on the ABUSE IS NO EXCUSE website, so many people out there looking for information and help it is so sad, but I am really pleased that we are still offering a service to those in need of help.

Please don't hesitate to email me if you want some support carylw3@mweb.co.za  My book LOOK ME IN THE EYE is still available and is about to go into it's second edition. You can still order a signed copy directly from me just pop me an email.

Stay strong

Information you must read !

If you are on Facebook, please type in After Narcissist Abuse - light, love and laughter, the information posted everyday is extremely helpful and I am sure you will have all your questions answered.

The question still persists.. will they ever change, and the answer is NO.

Narcissist Revisited

Here is the link to a few video's you may want to watch if you are involved with a Narcissist. Dr Sam Vaknin wrote the introduction to my book LOOK ME IN THE EYE and if anyone knows what he is talking about when it comes to the Narcissist he does. Click On Link

 

16 DAYS Activism against Women and Child abuse

If you would like to follow 16 Days of Inspiration please just click on the highlighted link.

PAINE- please ABUSE IS NO EXCUSE

Hi to all those who visit and revisit my blog.
2012 has gone by so quickly it has left me spinning. I had this amazing feeling in January that something really good was going to happen this year and some wonderful things have happened, but I am still expecting more. I used to journal on my blogs quite a bit and share all the interesting things that I was doing on a fairly regular basis, but due to all the different things I am involved in, one by one I had to create new blogs and separate the various things that will interest different people.

This blog is no longer going to be about my recovery or anything to do with abuse I have created a separate blog for those of you who are looking for help and are not interested in what painting I did last week, or where my children are flitting off to on holiday.

http://abuseisnoexcuse.blogspot.com/ I will be posting information on the blog as and when I find information for you and will share some of your stories if you let me. So if you need to be amongst people who understand fully what domestic violence, child abuse, depression and suicide are all about pop over the that blog and we will always be there to try and help.

This blog will eventually become a magazine with all kinds of interesting things for anyone who wants to just drop by and see what I am up to. I have a few more blogs which I have also separated to be more specialized and specific.

If you would like to see more of my blogs here is a list of them.
Abuse is no excuse. Is for anyone who wants to understand domestic violence or needs help.
Peace of Art. Is where you will find all my digital art.
Caryl Park My art work in oils, water colour and mixed media.
Passion for Pewter Says it all. I love doing pewter and I will be posting patterns here for everyone
Coming soon a new blog for ALL JOURNAL LOVERS.

Ciao for now.
Caryl

So Sorry !

I feel like such a creap. It has been a while since I was here, just been really busy with a whole lot lately which I will be able to share fairly soon I hope, all going well. I am working on a new product for retail outlets, which is very exciting. I am sure you will love it.
This blog was started for people who visit my website to see how my progress has been since my divorce... shew can you believe it was 6 years ago! Well that part of my life is so far behind me now that I barely think about those days anymore, so it's all good.
There are still people who contact me from my website www.abuseisnoexcuse.co.za and it sadens me to hear everyone's stories, but I am always here to encourage and share when ever it is needed.
So, for now please pop in now and again to see what I am up to. Hope you are all well and that life is being kind to you.

Cirque du Soleil

Stamps

Every day that I can take my art to new places, is an awesome day. I have been doing Zentangles and doodles for quite a while now and recently I came across the work of Mary Vogel Lozinak. I will find a link to her etsy shop, her work is really excellent and very funny. Mary's work reminded me of some of my own so I sent some of mine for her to see as I didn't think it was worth posting on Facebook or on my blog. Well guess what, she introduced me to a company who makes stamps and they want to make some of mine. Woohoo. I am not making more and more while I sit and watch TV and it fun to think that soon they will be stamps available to anyone who wants them. I will post a link when that happens, in the mean time this is some of my work. I hope you find them as funny as I do!

If you would like to see more of my blogs here is a list of them.
Abuse is no excuse.
Peace of Art. Is where you will find all my digital art.
Caryl Park     My art work in oils, water colour and mixed media.
Passion for Pewter  Says it all. I love doing pewter and I will be posting patterns here for everyone.

I have a new blog that is coming soon which I am very excited about so keep watching this space.

Life Coach

I am half way through my Life Coaching course and loving it. I deal with so many people who come out of abusive relationships that I wanted to do even more than just helping them survive. I want to take them even further and higher than they have ever been before. Anything is possible when the desire and willingness is strong enough.
NLP Life Coaching.

POST TRAUMATIC STRESS

Thank goodness PTSD is a thing of the past for me. It was an incredibly long journey and to tell you the truth I did reach a point when I thought there absolutely is NO cure. Thankfully I was wrong. I suffered with the disorder for 10 years, I spent a fortune on therapy and my condition just became worse.
Margaret has given me a link which I want to share, perhaps if you are suffering with any of the symptoms this site may be able to help. I am also going to be discussing ALL the different modalities of treatment I went through and my oppinions about them individually.
If you would like to read about the healing process you can go to my PAINE blog.

Nancy -All Pulped Out

If you are into any kind of digital work you will really enjoy Nancy's blog. Go take a peek at some of here work she is incredibly talented.

Textures with Nancy

Thank you Nancy for showcasing some of the fun we all had with your textures. If anyone would like to see more of my own digital work they will find it here Caryl's Hear Art

Frustration Continues!

I know... change is always necessary, but I don't like it one bit! The changes made to the new blog are making it so difficult to see where all my friends have gone. I am going to have to spend some time trying to learn how this all works again. Can anyone out there help me to find all the people whose blogs I have been following for so long. I am mad mad mad!

What the heck is this?

How does one go to dashboard from here which is where I follow all my favourite blogs... this is new!